In today’s dream did I
offend a friend. He found me severally doing what I was embarrassed for –
stealing. I cannot remember what I was stealing for it was not such a big thing
to benefit from. It must have been something as petty as sugar licking. Dreams
happen to operate from an ‘I can’t help’ situation. I could not avoid stealing
and also couldn’t avoid being caught. From his look he loathed my actions- and
my whole being maybe. He knew me as a poor petty thief.
The gist to this article is…how do you know people? Do you
think you know them truly? For whom they cannot else be? Does knowing him so
influence your relations? Is it even worth to think you know people from a
certain activity you identified them with?
The other day we sat round with our friend who calls himself
the boss to brainstorm on a few issues. The discussion drifted to personalities.
He was describing one of us as a book that only is known by the covers and hasn’t
been read. He described a lady as a person using her feminity to gain among
gentlemen. He was speaking for his eyes, heart and mind.
My neighbour knows me as a guy who doesn’t keep promises. So
many a times have we arranged for a weekend hangout that never matures. When
she is the one changing the plans, the deal has never hurt as it would if I was
the game changer. A country ride is scheduled for this weekend and she’s all pessimistic
of my going though I have promised.
That teacher who always found you on the wrong side of the
law may have identified you as cheeky, troublesome, defiant and generally an
irresponsible student. That friend whom you borrowed money from may no longer
trust you again simply because you had not received your money in time to
refund. You borrowed a bicycle from a friend yesterday and as if it was waiting
for you that the fork breaks from the steering, there you are, guilty to
replace with a new pair or else your friendship takes another direction.
We have a saying in Maragoli that relates to people with whom
you cannot get along with. ‘Our bloods do not agree to each other’- it goes.
The condition seems natural. There are brothers who will always be at par when you
expecting such closeness to bring more friendship. There are people whom you
will found self frowning upon without any reason. And there are those whose
favour and approach you would keep rebelling.
What does that therefore make of us as humans? The phenomena
may not have the right words or feeling in this article. It may keep you away
from harmful people as it may prevent you from gaining the best of the people.
It is alright for someone to be denied forum on his day of interview for that
may be precedence…but wait, does the company know how wrong it was to deny that
human a chance?
How well we understand the misunderstandings and misunderstand the understandings!
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