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Heavy responsibilities for elder aunt among the Logooli

With Seenge Fonesi. She is the elder grand daughter of Isagi and elder daughter of Amugasya. She is often present in functions involving the family of Amugasya. Pic taken on 18/4/2024. The elder sister soon becomes the elder aunt. It is this “seenge munene” (elder aunt) tag that she is tied to many cultural responsibilities – back home. To her marital family she may appear as any other woman, but she is not so in the eyes of her people. Marriage does not steal her away as it would happen with other daughters of the old man. To her, as days go and the old man and woman of the estate are dependents, she becomes increasingly present.  Her brothers also need her for almost all traditional markings. They are marrying, she needs to welcome the new wife. They are giving birth, she needs to come to midwife or “bless” the new born. They are paying dowry she needs to lead the women delegate. There is a conflict she needs to come for a hearing.  And many others. Traditions does not expect her to

I’ve been thinking about ….


I’ve been thinking of the articles that rushed in my mind as good for the blog and I never had the opportunity to write them. The mind is a busy bee, the body will always find it very hard trying to keep its pace, so much dies at the thinking level. And if you have ideas coming in every other time then you got to develop a higher thinking level of dumping your ideas in the mental dust bin.

I’ve been thinking of the contribution an individual can have on the larger community. Is change a reserve of an individual or a commodity for the community to partake? Or the community is at all times in its perfect state and an individual is in for a rough journey trying to communicate change? Think of your community. Think of its main problem. Are people not living?

I’ve been thinking of the attitude that people sooner develop and call it the freedom to critic. Not expression. That they have a right to tell you how bad your idea is, how many people have tried similar stuffs to no luck. And they go ahead to tell you how a-wanna-be you sound, how narrow you are, are you even schooled? That you are focusing on that idea because you have no other thing to do and cool your ass. I’ve been thinking of calling such people assholes.

I’ve also many a times meditated of taking a back step and be lead. You know, we cannot all be leaders. And we cannot aim to be. That is the mistake. We do not want a defeatist mind, that is what we keep telling each other. Yet there are activities, clear to our conscience we are not good at and it might need to be born a new even with a different sex to be fit for them. But I reflect upon the quote that, ‘you are more likely to regret what you never attempted than what you did,’ so I rove!

I’ve also been thinking about teamwork. Its value. Its impact and its role in sustainability. Easier said. You will be told how Chelsea does wonders when it meets Arsenal because there is some cooperation. You won’t be told that those players are individually highly paid to be in those positions, a reason to explain the lack of organized play teams in the villages. Without reasonable and above average gains, you are a volunteer, not a team member! And I have written posts here damning volunteerism.

Which makes me think about the individuals who join initiatives, those who are first approached and go, ‘haaa, this a beautiful idea,’ and they are part of the start. These people who by themselves are comfortable in their areas – of vanity. No difference in getting them to a lesser vanity – you would have upped your game and bought their skills and capacities. That way they wouldn’t seek time to give this new thing you have attention. You would command them to do it by salary!

I’ve been thinking about what then? To work on personal capacities that you least need people to advance a course. To approach courses that an individual can manage. This prevents one from having unrealistic expectations. And for the record, it saves you from the shame a stupid member can put you in because as you are struggling to share the vision, the critic imbecile is spotting your weak areas. You end up hating and being bitter to a people who at first were ‘happy’ in their condition.

A majority of us are not starters. Governments and organizations would rather employ them and tell them what to do. And when their bosses are not watching then nothing is happening. The need to be individually productive to benefit the whole is lacking. And we are stuck! Standards are normal ones – to grow, have sex, have children, die. When I start thinking about such, I refuse to buy to that. Won’t give up!


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