Why you could be wrong about Lung'afa

pic: MOT studio, Chavakali.

A friend of mine came close to describing me often as I do at my daily diary. I am a son of soil. I believe in finding solutions to our problems. I am no fence-sitter. Perhaps when all this happens one or two gets uncomfy. You know, we have to put in our best. And maintaining the best even to self is not easy. Hence the need for us to unconditionally tolerate each other, be easy, seek for the other person's view than get concrete-fixed on ours. 

Below is one 'favorable response' to help me be understood. Yes, I have been accused of rudeness, fanaticism, bush-fired and all that. All part of the struggle to sow a thought here or there. One Disclaimer is that I do not believe I am smarter than others. I do not look below on others. Perchance the posting imposes me, I resist it. The writer is a well-read man whom I respect, a friend who is attracted to my activities and least interested in who I am. The text is unedited save for the initialized writer:

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 [3:10 pm, 25/01/2022] M.E aka Eagle: JUST  SO THAT WE TRY AND UNDERSTAND @Lung'afa Igunza and his mode of arguments 

@Lung'afa Igunza may appear insensitive and inappropriate. His discussions can also be combative, even aggressive. It’s not uncommon with brilliant people with IQs around 130. Their brilliance is like a burden; their brains demand challenges, they become restless and frustrated if not faced with a problem they need to exert their brains on. 

When you see @Lung'afa Igunza  speed typing cringeworthy responses don’t wonder what’s wrong with him, why he doesn’t realize that he’s not making any friends. That’s not his objective. He’s craving a mental challenge, and if you’re not providing it he actually doesn’t want to be your friend anyway. You’re not it for him. He’ll only respect you if you can sustain a decent argument. The moment you default to any fallacy he’s done with you.

This dismissive attitude doesn’t endear them to many people, but what most don’t understand is that it’s not an emotional disconnection. It’s a mental alienation. They actually don’t relate much at people level. They relate at thought level. They either like or don’t like your thinking. You’re mostly inconsequential. They’re interested in your mental output. Who you are is your business.

Two people with IQs separated by 20points see the world fundamentally differently. It’s like they live in different worlds. They have different motivations and relate at different levels. And it’s not that they’re looking down on anyone. They’re like that even with each other. 

People think academia is a bed of roses, being called prof by wide eyed students full of admiration. The truth however is that academia is competitive and can be cold and friendliness. You must prove why you belong in those hallowed halls by publishing research that can be mercilessly shredded by your peers in a way that makes you feel like a joker. So you delay publishing until you’re absolutely sure, as brilliant peers don’t babysit you. It’s not a church.

They’ve been blamed for everything from the 2008 recession to developing chemical and biological weapons. Fun fact, CFA, the premier Finance certification, made passing the Ethics module after the 2008 recession. Before that it was optional like other modules. Now if you fail Ethics in CFA, you have failed CFA. Even if you passed all the other modules. They made this change to emphasize the importance of considering the impact of decisions and advise on people, as financial analysts were giving advice that benefited them, not the clients.

So next time you see @Lung'afa Igunza  agitated, don’t become defensive if he dismisses your argument. You may not like it but he’s probably correct, you’re not arguing properly. Remember he has experience with pretty difficult debates, and most importantly, he’s more committed to the integrity of the argument than winning it. If you show him where he’s wrong, he won’t push it. He’ll actually stop and think about it. 

As odd as it sounds, his ego is not in the equation, and he doesn’t understand why yours should be. A bad argument is a bad argument. Get over it and move on. 

So don’t do wise cracks on him, or google something and post it here (you’ll notice he presents his argument), or worse still veer off to fallacies. You trigger a switch in his brain that he finds hard to ignore. You’re not using your head, so you’re wasting your brain. To him that’s the worst crime you can commit, yet he doesn’t even process all this at the conscious level. It’s a deep, sub conscious reaction that he may not even understand himself.

The solution? Ask him questions. You don’t have to be at his level in whatever he’s arguing at. Remember he exerts himself in whatever interests him until he exhausts his brain. So he probably knows the topic pretty well. Don’t go there. Instead seek to help him put it all together. What’s important? What’s not important? Where could there be inconsistencies? What insights (especially those not obvious) can be derived from all that? What’s the effect of time on all these insights, will they always hold? 

[4:06 pm, 25/01/2022] M.E aka Eagle: Actually @Lung'afa Igunza  is on my considered  view  a "Sapiosexual" . Once you understand  this, it will be much easier to understand his line of arguments as he presents his facts to back his thinking.  The best thing is for you to keep asking him questions if at all you don't follow his thinking.  If you are of a contrary opinion,  present your arguments without necessarily  resulting to norms. Norms will not work for him as he will question their values. Present a logical thought line that puts him to task and you will be good to go without "catching " feelings. 

Hope with this and piece above , I  have demystified  the wrongly judged attitude of his being "rude" and at times  "without respect" . Good day