Ugly words said at funerals

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“Can we kindly call the police,” said the pastor, cutting short a speaker, “you detail to them this murder case?” Crowd gets mum. 

The murmers that had developed as the speaker cursed those who killed her father went silent. The pastor asks the speakers to desist from unfounded accusations.

At the back a man murmers, “if they claim he was killed, why are they burying in broad daylight? Why did they call for public fundraisers? Don’t Logooli traditions refuse?

Many a funerals have we sat to listen to near-stupids speak. They will tend to plainly accuse someone, hide in mourning pain and lie that if you say it it will make you be free. 

Recently, in a shared video, a little rude girl spoke in a funeral accusing his rich uncle of being ‘able’ to uplift them yet he was not. She said how their aunt hates her and her siblings. Madness. 

Who lies to anyone that some people are in charge of their success? Should this not even be a secret feeling? How it comes to public is basically lack of manners! And how worse at a funeral.

I am coming to terms with the question, “is it a MUST you say it?” In many instances, more if you are angry, it is NOT a must. The disclaimer that one should be “left to say than keep” should be heralded by, “what is this you want to say that would rather be kept?”

Of those who will speak about how the diseased was sick, boiled at the buttocks, having diarrhea how many times a day and all ugly. They turn the funeral an ugly pitiful event. 

It is asked for families to sit and deliberate on what issues are burning within them. Rarely do some have time for that. They would wish to speak about land, drag in past scenarios – they care less and cannot stick to the agenda of celebrating the life of the diseased. 

Some are already practicing what they will say at a certain funeral – when the person is not yet dead even. Not bad, you can think of the death of others before yours, but as you do, reduce bile in your words. 

There is a sister in the USA who could not manage to attend her brother's funeral. She sent a letter message through a second brother. When he read, it bitterly accused the wife of the brother as a viper, tormentor and finally a killer. He is free from her, the letter concluded.

Then the politicians who have of late made funerals their free public gatherings arena. Full of saying little but when coming elections will long be. Some have left funerals disturbed with ugly exchanges and even dared fights. 

Oh without forgetting the shouting preacher! He or she rises to plant seed in the living, the dead is dead! They, some not so smart, speak about ugly issues. One cursed GenZs, another said mother-in-laws step in urine of daughter-in-law when she micro-attends to the affairs of her son. And more that this article would turn ugly to include.