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The struggle with many a rigid Logooli cultural practices

  The Logooli community is one of the deeply cultured societies – with near everything supposed to have been done as per custom – to allow another custom to follow. One example is that for a mature man (with a child or more) to be buried, there must be a house structure at home. Another is that a boy must be circumcised and nursed in father land. If maternal family decides to, the boy will have a hard time reconnecting with father people - a dent on his masculinity. There were two children who got burnt to death in a house in Nairobi. The single mother had left for night work. Elders were told that one of the children was Logooli. The other, the woman had sired with someone else. The Logooli family wanted to burry their little one and long discussed the do’s and don’ts. Of a man who died childless and the grave was placed as if he had died as a man with children. It should have been dug on the sides, the grave. A real thorn should have been thrust in his buttocks, his name go...
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What do you remember her for?

Let us talk about women, folks! I understand it is not a conscious topic. Stories of women (or girls) are associated with pettiness, unfound whining and worse of all we have socialized those that do not call for our respect in debauchery. If you gonna host a woman, largely prepare for either, more so if in any way she feels inferior to you. Apart from sex, which of cause any can offer, women have left us good memories, learning instances and opened our eyes to new understanding.

In giving back, sons of soil have been responsible in offering technical help. A bulb went off and when it was replaced, the new did not light. The tap is loose man, do something. The gate hinges screech badly! Don’t we have a male figure around? If such would be remembered then the accusations towards men would reduce.


As agents of change, a woman can make one feel that you have long foolishly wallowed in deprivation and ignorance. ‘Look at your bed! Can’t you buy new sheets? Blankets are no longer in use. There are cheap duvets men. Stop embarrassing yourself. Is this the place you want me to sleep?’ Haha. The next time she will come to a new house, better than the other, a sofa set installed with a cooking gas in place. She would smile internally and mock at your folly. Did you have to take that long?

Before leaving for high school the poor village boy who never knew the essence of a closet was excused by his sister. She helped him pack items in the iron box. There he saw her take a shirt by the back, folding each side straight before the collar before folding it twice or once- ‘How you like it bro,’ she said. Only the least to satisfy would opt for an iron box.

Socks are clothing too and when washed should be well folded to avoid the wrinkles that would hurt your leg in a tight shoe. You have been used to coiling them roughly and here she is, teaching you how to fold them in pairs before rolling them into a beautiful ball. There will be no time where one part of the pair goes missing. That is a big problem simply solved.

My friend had one bucket for a start. Well served for that moment, he could ask for a basin or two from the neighbor once in a while for laundry. He says that his girlfriend visited one day and was about to help when she discovered that she would have to take a neighbor’s item. How she hates asking neighbours for items! Basins are not very expensive boy. Heaven sent, she bought them.

A woman would stand to correct and reprove a man in a direct way that a fellow man would not. They stand to say what they feel and want. And a man would accept that as a good challenge and employ efforts to provide.

It sours when the expectations cannot be fulfilled, when reproving is received as undermining or embarrassment, when one does not put self in the other’s position- when reproving is used to gain advantage.

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