WHAT MAKES CHILDREN RUDE?

It is in the normal acting of an average child to find self on the opposing side of things. He is known for being a noise maker, glass breaker, fighter and cunning. She becomes lazy, grows weary and assumes timidity. It is in the going astray that children are exposed to the good- something that would be very diluted if we lived in a good world. In this scenario, let us talk of children that you would always knock on the head: mind not that some grown-ups behave indifferently.

Nairobi children do not grow up by the rod because their parents are activists- either working with the city council, teachers’ society and related comrade based institutions. The well-payed afford to admit their children in gentle private institutions. The rest join Laissez Faire public institutions. It is in such institutions that the average child (from an average family) enrolls. There are no trees for them to harvest canes from. There are too many sympathizers in and around. There have no teachers who can drive out foolishness via naked talking.

It needs no research that environments can affect the socio-emotional condition of a child. If a matatu cannot carry a child for free from one stage to another, what do you expect the child to be when he owns a car? It may sound so simple but if you will agree that small things matter most. A child should have a socialist environment where everyone cares.

When this pupil from Ayany Primary School stood to ask a colleague facilitator whether she has a boy friend, I was not moved. It is his environment that has not taught him how to refrain from ambiguity and issues that matter less. Videos and music are too much into him than a few fables. He again talked the last when the facilitator said that she is married. He said that he was thinking of organizing for a meeting with his elder brother. I felt like laughing; not at the sincere stupidity but at the extent of rottenness among the adolescent.

Freud is known for libido; an energy with which mental processes and structures are invested and which generates erotic attachments. The interactive of the sessions among the young are about the sex dilemma. When the energy cannot be contained, temerity takes young to gambling, promiscuity, delinquency and any other manner of activities that may influence future lifestyles.

If libido is the greatest drive before reason takes up- to some it never dawns- then the solution to juvenile delinquency vests in proper sexual practices. Ask me to sponsor a motion that will introduce a libido control vaccine. I will be active unlike I was when the parliament thought that children can be given condoms. Take control of sexual senses and there will be sanity in campuses and society at large. Money, drugs and power will be seen differently if this is captured.

It is annoying to see a child take the naughty path in life- difficult to obey and be meek. Responses from a people may vary. Few will understand the problem because some are as problematic even before phallic stage. Knowing that a child will grow up to disturb makes the parent a failure and a teacher incompetent. But who controls the mind of an individual? Is the drive magical? Some uncalled for behaviours can be rationalized later in life.

Asking for the noisemakers to go on their knees alongside those who laugh unreasonably is my way  to have them know that the visitor is a no-joking fellow. The faster it will take the child to kneel the quicker I will deploy mercy and tell him to be obedient. Boys are majorly clients. It may have never occurred to you that some raise their hands to speak words that take talks outside the topic and make peers laugh at the present comedian. Their world is always too small for them now.

We are conducting a needs assessment to inform character development among pupils. What is the approach you can advise?

Is it normal to caution and warn children? In shouts and beatings? Can't they responsibly grow without them?