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Heavy responsibilities for elder aunt among the Logooli

With Seenge Fonesi. She is the elder grand daughter of Isagi and elder daughter of Amugasya. She is often present in functions involving the family of Amugasya. Pic taken on 18/4/2024. The elder sister soon becomes the elder aunt. It is this “seenge munene” (elder aunt) tag that she is tied to many cultural responsibilities – back home. To her marital family she may appear as any other woman, but she is not so in the eyes of her people. Marriage does not steal her away as it would happen with other daughters of the old man. To her, as days go and the old man and woman of the estate are dependents, she becomes increasingly present.  Her brothers also need her for almost all traditional markings. They are marrying, she needs to welcome the new wife. They are giving birth, she needs to come to midwife or “bless” the new born. They are paying dowry she needs to lead the women delegate. There is a conflict she needs to come for a hearing.  And many others. Traditions does not expect her to

FACES HELP US LIE WELL

It is not new when someone asks you if you saw yourself in the mirror today. Most writers have used mirrors as a way to describe a personal reflection of who you think you are and what you not. The diary has it all about me in writing. We can’t fail to use repeated words…or else we will be bored each and every moment we find ourselves and others talking of the too obvious. What we can do is to look at a thing, think of a situation, and hear of a word with greater understanding and increased thinking. It makes the normal strange and the average superior. I can’t remember whom I was in the mirror today even with all the many times I’ve seen my reflection. 

On a scale of ten shillings, to what cash are you honest? This is not a good way of communicating. It may either show my ignorance or make you change your face. I was asking the number you would pick if I was to give you a number line of ten points that reflect your honesty level. Some may lie to this very point.

We all put on different faces when we are stealing, praying, reading, thinking, wondering, working, listening, ailing, growing and even sleeping. What about when we are in sex? Men conceive all manner of faces. This is a bit strange…later please. We also have that teeth-pressing kind of look.
Eye contact, as the all-time honest way of reading people’s hearts only takes the gurus to interpret the lies of one’s face. If I meet you for the first time, I guess I know what your doubts are as I’ve also met people for the first time. If I wrong you, I will have the rough idea of what your inner face expression is for I have been wronged too. I won’t be too dumb to think of it.

Each person at various moments put on a new face; blacks to whites, the young to old, alive to the dead, the healthy to the sick and situational to normality. It is often not what we like to see on social media where people post the best of their smiles and moments. They have more as many other moments to the known profile picture. Have you ever dated a skin glowing one over facebook and felt puking during the D-day?

The lies we propagated while infants through forced pretense to cries, cries that were immediately halted by the sight of a mammary gland nip, we took to changing our phases and voice tones- not to cry but have our ways out. Out from worse and even to more tragedy by the same wear.

Johari’s personality phenomena thinks that there is always that part of you that you know I don’t know of yet there is always another part you don’t know I know of. That is why people say things like: ‘I knew you were going to say that; I can’t just understand you.’

It may not be generally rude to talk to people who are not looking at your face. I would not want to look at you when the toothbrush is your neighbour or when you are generally a bore. Children in their timidity would rather have you talk as they play or run about. A direct look in the face, if it comes from me, when you are blubbing, would see you want to slap me.

The three deep wrinkles that appear on Trevor Noah’s face during his comedy shows to display disgust rather than a killer face in action movies mean much more than the words. Without moods, life would be rather boring. To have a smiling face and enjoy its countenance you must have been unhappy to have a melancholic boredom state. To enjoy one you must dislike another. In some sense I mean; just as it in defining good and bad.

Back to sex, and only to people who would get interested to have a mind juggle without feeling grrr, I request for your views. The pounding heart stops –or beats harder- at the site of a damsel on the road when the walk isn’t focused. Or when it is. It takes few seconds to have all my drooping and tired body parts back to life in a few seconds.  More oxygen in the brain and the face blooms. The eyes can do what they can do best in collaboration with imagination.

The change of faces from light to dark, seriousness to more serious, cursing to more friction, rising to more highest pitch, praising to more worship, in black-out and the start of negative cursing, sweating to releasing comes before any kind of regret and denouncing what previously was the highest end to something you never want. I tend to think it is because of the stealing nature we engage in. Do husband and wife feel same after?

Thoughts are subject to change- as are moods. Nothing is permanent. Jealousy boils today and cools tomorrow.  I used to think it is a sin to lust. I had not read about ‘The Science of Lust.’ If it were not for lust, how would men get attracted to women…who would marry them and continue life? In our various damn faces there is goodness and badness alike.

                          When you have nothing to think about, think about such things.

Which face lies best?





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